Many adults who come to therapy believe there is something wrong with them.

They struggle with confidence

They overthink decisions.

They are afraid of making mistakes.

They work incredibly hard yet rarely feel good enough.

Often they assume these problems began in adulthood.

But the roots frequently go much further back.

Growing up in a critical environment can shape how we see ourselves long after childhood has ended.

Criticism does not always look like shouting or harsh punishment.

Sometimes it sounds like:

‘Why can’t you do better?’

‘You should know this already’

‘Don’t be so sensitive’

‘That’s not good enough’

‘You should have tried harder’

When children hear these messages repeatedly, they begin to form beliefs about themselves.

They may learn:

• I am not good enough
• I need to work harder to be accepted
• Mistakes are dangerous
• My worth depends on my performance
• Other people’s opinion matter more than my own

As adults, these beliefs can show up in many different ways.

Some people become perfectionists.

Some constantly seek approval.

Others avoid challenges because they fear failure.

Many develop a harsh inner critic that continues saying what was once said to them.

One of the most important things therapy can offer is understanding.

Not blame.

Not dwelling on the past forever.

But recognising how old experiences continue to influence current thoughts, emotions, and relationships.

Because when we understand the roots of a pattern, we gain the opportunity to change it.

You do not have to spend the rest of your life trying to prove your worth.

The goal is not perfection.

The goal is learning that your value was never dependent on meeting impossible standards in the first place.

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