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I specialise in the long-term impact of early experiences on self-worth and relationship patterns.

I am a qualified psychotherapist working in Thame, Oxfordshire where I have a quiet, comfortable and easily accessible consulting room.

You might look like you’re coping on the outside—but inside, something doesn’t feel right.

You overthink, doubt yourself, or find yourself stuck in the same patterns—especially in relationships.

Even when you understand why, it doesn’t seem to change.

I specialise in helping people understand the deeper roots of these patterns—and shift them.

Many of the difficulties we experience as adults are shaped by earlier environments—how we were spoken to, treated, or made to feel.

Therapy with me focuses on both understanding these patterns and changing them, so you can feel more secure, more confident, and less stuck in yourself and your relationships.

I integrate trauma-focused therapy (including EMDR) with deeper pattern work.

This means we work on two levels:
– processing the emotional impact stored in your nervous system
– understanding and shifting the beliefs and patterns that formed from it

So you’re not just gaining insight—you’re actually experiencing change.

This work is particularly suited to people who feel ready to understand themselves at a deeper level and create meaningful, lasting change.

How we work: The Roots & Patterns Process

Our work together follows a structured but flexible process designed to help you understand and shift long-standing patterns at their root.

  1. Understanding the Pattern
    We identify the patterns that are keeping you stuck—especially in how you think, feel, and relate to others.
  2. Tracing the Roots
    We explore where these patterns come from, often linking them to earlier experiences and environments.
  3. Processing & Shifting
    Using approaches such as EMDR, we work with the emotional impact stored in your nervous system—so change isn’t just intellectual, but felt.
  4. Integrating Change
    We focus on building new ways of relating to yourself and others, so these shifts carry into your everyday life.

If you are insured through AXA, BUPA, Cigna or WPA, I am a provider for them. Please ensure you get an authorisation from them to enable me to see you for counselling.

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Fundamental to my approach is the belief that with the right support, we all have the potential to continue to change and grow throughout our lives. By understanding ourselves and taking responsibility for our feelings we can find greater happiness. To decide to come to counselling takes courage but it can be the first step on a journey of self-awareness, healing and fulfilment.

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How can Counselling help?

To be human means we will, at some time, go through periods of emotional pain, distress or unhappiness. Normally we are able to cope and get through these with or without help of friends or family.

But sometimes these thoughts can overwhelm us and have a negative impact on our health, well being, relationship and our enjoyment of life. We can feel stuck, alone and lost. Sometimes this can make it very difficult to share your feelings with others and can lead to a deep sense of isolation and low mood. This is where a stranger, the counsellor, can help you make sense of things and work towards resolving issues by discussing what is going on for you right now.

  • Depression

  • Anxiety

  • Stress

  • Addictions

  • Fears including phobias and OCD

  • Lack of self esteem

  • Parenting issues

  • Relationship issues

  • Anger

  • Trauma

    Any trauma experience; natural disaster, road traffic accident, any form of abuse, etc

Mirella has helped with my confidence and the sessions have helped me to re assess things in my life. My childhood shaped the person I am, but you can retrain yourself. Our sessions have been very inciteful. Mirella is very professional.

I have learned I am better than I thought I was. Talking and building my confidence has helped me a lot. Mirella is very understanding, and I have found our work together life changing.

It has been good to have somebody who I can open up to without judgment. I have learned I am stronger then I thought. Our work together has been an eye opener, helpful and has given me tools to use in the future.

I have learned I am actually a good person and I have lots of skills which are positive.

I am stronger and more resilient than I thought I was.

Mirella made me realise I can do so much more.

The work I have done with Mirella has been life changing.

I have learned that I have to look after my emotional well-being

Mirella is very professional and very approachable. 

Making contact

If you are considering counselling for the first time you may be unsure of your needs or what to expect. Please feel free to get in touch with me by email or on the phone to talk in confidence about your situation and discuss the next steps. You can contact me on 07934922563 or on email at info@mirellafoxcounselling.co.uk.
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