Spring 2023 Newsletter

Spring 2023 Newsletter

 

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Welcome to the Spring edition of my Well Being Newsletter!

We have made it through winter and with spring approaching the air feels fresh and the flowers are slowly coming out. Spring always feels like people are coming out of hibernation and are ready to re-join the world. Seeing and hearing people out and about enjoying themselves in their gardens or leaving the pub, it’s my favourite time of year.

Therapy so far started slow but is now getting busy. Once we have gotten through winter and through what always seems like a long January, clients are thinking about where they are in life and if they have been struggling now seems to be the time to seek help and support if they need it. I feel very privileged to be able to work with such a big age range, clients as young as 17 and some as young as 86!

From talking to clients it can sometimes take a long time for a person to seek out help. There is often a feeling of ‘I can manage this’, ‘I will be ok’, ‘I just need to get through Christmas’, etc and it does seem to take months from looking to finding a counsellor to actually making contact. I think there does not seem to be as much as a stigma around talking therapies, but it can still take a person awhile before admitting they do need help and support or sometimes just a listening ear.

 

If you are feeling like this is you, do get in touch. There are some clients who just want me to listen as they unload or if sometimes they just want to run through different options/possibilities on how to handle what is going on in their life.

I have recently put out an online Self Care course. This course if FREE with no obligation to pay anything. I felt this is something that I always seem to discuss with clients in my sessions and there does seem to be a lot of lack of self care for most. ‘ I don’t have time’, ‘I will get around to that later’, ‘I am too busy and it is selfish to spend time on me’. These are various things I have heard which may seem familiar to you too. But believe me it is not selfish. It is an important part of your mental well being to be able to let your mind and body relax so it can recharge itself. Allowing yourself to do this will enable you to deal with anything coming your way. When you are tired, resentful and angry with others, it can be you feel you are not important but this is your choice. You are the one who can change this and make sure you put yourself as the priority! Find the self care course here.

Calling all parents, grandparents, carers, teachers!

Are you frustrated by your child’s behaviour? Do you feel they never listen to you or do what you ask them to do? If not punishment, how can we use discipline our children in a way that does not hurt or harm them mentally or physically and will actually help them to learn and understand responsibility? You will be surprised by how by changing several things it can make a massive difference and you can enjoy a good relationship with your children.

This online course will help you with Effective parenting knowledge, tools, answers, examples and reflection as well as exercises to make changes are all in here called Effective Parenting. This course went live in January. There are 8 chapters each with modules. It will cover parenting styles, communication, listening, self care, building self esteem and confidence in your children, problem solving, positive discipline, goals of misbehaviour, effective discipline. There are audios and videos and quizzes to help your knowledge on how to parent more effectively. Parenting is the hardest job we will ever do, so give yourself as much help as you can.

I have dealt with many parents and varying issues in creating a better relationship between them and their children and I felt an online course may help others who would like to learn more too. Find details on this course here.

Please keep an eye on my website as well as my Facebook page as I am there supporting you as much as I can. Like my page or share with others on:

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When Life Hands You Lemons, Are You Making Lemonade?

Some would argue that there are merely two types of people in this world- those who see an obstacle as a reason to quit and those who see it as an opportunity to try something different. When life hands you lemons, you can put on your puckered face and bemoan the gift, or you can learn how to make the best lemonade out there!

We all experience obstacles in life. It’s inevitable that you will face challenges and experience struggle, and even failure, along your journey. What will define you as a person, and put you squarely into one of the two camps above, is HOW you overcome setbacks in life. Your success will be determined on whether you suck on those lemons or learn to make lemonade.

Want to learn how to turn those obstacles into opportunities? Here are some strategies for turning whatever lemons life hands you into the lemonade of your dreams.

Concentrate on What is Possible

In any setback or obstacle, there are things you can control and things you can’t. Focus on where you have the ability to make a difference and forget the rest. The setback represents an opportunity to learn something new, try something different, and test out new possibilities. Instead of wasting time lamenting that the obstacle has been placed in your path, focus instead on what you can do to either move the obstacle, go around it, or find a way of getting over or through it.

There is Always Something You Can Do

Regardless of the complexity of your problem, there is a simple place that you can start to resolve the situation. Find the immediate action you can take, then follow the next logical step. Then follow the next one, and the next one. Before you know it, you’ll be well on your way to getting yourself out of your current situation and back on a path toward attaining your goals. Achieving dreams is not about a giant leap from beginning to end but about a million small steps you take to get you to your destination.

You Need More Than Hope

Regardless of the obstacle you encounter, you will need more than hope to help you overcome it. While it is essential to remain positive and optimistic that you can surpass your current setback, just relying on your hopeful attitude will not actually propel you forward. Setting achievable goals is vital, as is engaging in actions regularly that help you make your much-desired progress. You need a plan, and you need to do something every day in order to achieve your dreams.

Don’t Worry About the “Shoulds”

The best plans in life are the ones that actually work. Instead of worrying so much about what you are supposed to do or what should happen, you need to focus instead on what is actually working. Progress toward a goal is much more important than perfection, so focus on what will get the job done and let the rest go.

You Can Only Control Yourself

It is a waste of time trying to control events and other people in this world. The only thing you can really control is your own attitude and actions. Believe in yourself, develop mental toughness and resiliency, and focus on how your attitude informs your actions. The rest is out of your hands. The right mindset can be crucial for helping you overcome obstacles, toxic people, and failures along the way, so focus on what you can control.

Marcus Aurelius famously wrote, “What stands in the way becomes the way.” Rather than lamenting your lemons, start learning today how to make lemonade, and you’ll soon find you are able to accomplish anything to which you set your mind.

Inspirational Quote:

Life is 10% what happens to us and 90% how we react to is. – Dennis P. Kimbro

 

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