Spring 2021 Newsletter
Spring 2021 Newsletter Edition
Welcome to the Spring edition of my Well Being Newsletter!
How exciting to be able to write this now. Spring is well and truly on the way! I think most of us have been waiting for this, for what feels like, a long time.
There is finally a roadmap to take us out of lockdown. I hope there will be no further lockdowns as it has been very hard for many people to get through this pandemic. Not being able to make social connections or speak to friends or family has been tough on a lot of us. The most important value for most people is to seek a connection with others, social interest is one of the many corner stones of being human. So opening up this avenue will be a positive step to move forward. If you are struggling with this and you find anxiety and/or depression is holding you back from venturing out or you still may have fears around this, you are not alone. This will be tough for many people and there is no shame in asking for help if you would support in helping you achieve this. Do not hesitate to get in touch, even if you would just like one session or more, do make contact through my website or through email or text/call.
As far as my work goes, I am still working on Zoom through video link, but I am considering going back to work in a face to face capacity in my counselling room in Chinnor. I think there will always be a place for online working, so if prefer this the option will still be there. Watch this space and/or Facebook page and website for more updated information.
I am working hard on two new email series, maybe I am just being over ambitious doing two, but I feel these email series may be a support to you with different aspects of what clients most often are looking for in therapy. They are little boosters to expand your knowledge on a topic but also have many helpful suggestions to encourage you forward with different topics. ‘Coping strategies’ is all about how best to cope with 10 topics: 1. Resentments, 2. Life upside down, 3. Grounded, 4. Life Control, 5. Purpose, 6. Coping with Failure, 7. Existential Crisis, 8. Trauma, 9. Disappointments, 10. Overwhelm. There will be coping mechanisms and strategies to help you with how to cope with changing circumstances. This is life, it is full of unexpected changes and how we deal with them and/or how we manage them is going to put you in a much stronger mindset to be able to cope.
It is very exciting to put this package together as it has so much helpful information for everybody. Most lessons will have a workbook with it on the same topic and gives you exercises to work through on the separate topics. I hope it will provide a lot of information for you.
Also, still working on the Grief and Loss package, which I also hope will provide you help if you are working through grief or loss in your life.
As soon as these are ready I will send an email out to let you know and you can sign up for this.
If there is a specific topic you are interested in, please email me to let me know as I would love to be able to help.
Please keep an eye on my website as well as my Facebook page as I am there supporting you as much as I can. Please share and like my page on:
Easter is on the way, so find my opening hours at the end of the newsletter.
Let’s look at some tips for the coming months
Coping in the pandemic: Adaptive Coping Techniques
There are a variety of adaptive coping mechanisms that are available to you and the ones below are considered to be an effective and healthy response to any stressful situation, including a pandemic.
Support- When you’re dealing with stressful events your support system has an important role to play. A pandemic is a unique situation, in that everyone is in the same boat and can sympathize with you on a level that is not normally possible. While isolating yourself physically is a positive, isolating yourself emotionally is not. Instead of internalizing your stress, work through it with someone who understands.
Problem-Solving- This adaptive approach requires identifying a stressor and finding a solution. So, narrow down the aspects of the pandemic that cause you the most stress and find a way to combat them. For example, if your greatest panic is contracting COVID-19, then you can problem-solve the problem by social distancing, washing your hands regularly, wearing a mask, and staying safe.
Humor- Laughter can lighten anyone’s mood. It doesn’t matter how long your to-do list is or how many new shows or movies you’d like to see. Sometimes kicking back with a comedy show/movie that you know makes you laugh is exactly what you need.
Physical Activity- There are very few stressbusters more effective than exercise. Use it to your advantage to stave off the stress of the pandemic.
Relaxation- What better way to manage stress than with relaxing activities, such as meditation, calming music, body scans, or just an activity you enjoy.
Strategies for dealing with Life’s Challenges: Changing Your Perception On Life
The most significant component and overall theme of facing life challenges is your perception of life. In short, you need to change the way you view life and the situations at hand.
1. View life how it is presented to you- Rather than viewing it as how you wish it would be. View it from the perception of how it is. Unrealistic exceptions and denial can stop you from making progress. To find a solution, you must first accept a mistake.
- Embrace how it is while you work towards bettering it for yourself- Going in line with viewing it how it is rather than sulk in it welcomes the difference. Just because life doesn’t turn out how you thought it would, it doesn’t mean that you should give up on it—accepting how it does not equate to giving up on creating a better life for yourself.
- Take Your Time- The idea of instant gratification seems to become more and more common. Perhaps there is profitability in getting people to act fast and act compulsively. When you put the amount of time we have in life into perspective, you have a lot more than what society chooses to believe. Life is built on a collection of knowledge over time. Making money, learning new things, trying new things, etc. are not linear. There isn’t a correct formula. You can take your time, figure out what you want in life, and then go back to your goals later when you can act on them.
- Stay Close To Your Feelings and Practice Gratitude- Know how you feel about certain situations. Keep a log if you need to. Feelings and emotions will help you determine when you are on a correct path for yourself. By understanding what you like and dislike, you can better mold what you would like to learn in the future.
- Accept Failure As Part Of The Journey- Understand that failure will happen and don’t be afraid to learn from it. Just because you fail once does not mean you will never succeed; it just means that perhaps you should alter how you do something.
Once you get a handle on facing life challenges, they will no longer control you. Instead, you will embrace them as they are a product of life.
Easter Opening Hours: I will be closed for the weekend from Friday 02 April till and including Monday 5 April. Back to work from Tuesday 06 April.
‘Don’t judge each day by the harvest you reap but by the seeds that you plant’ – Robert Louis Stevenson
Keep safe and I will see you in the next newsletter. Please feel free to forward to anybody who may benefit from anything in here.