Christmas 2020 Newsletter

Christmas Special 2020 Newsletter Edition

Welcome to the Christmas Special of my Well Being Newsletter!

What a different Christmas it will be this year! It is still a special time of year and I thought a special edition newsletter may be in helpful. Christmas can be a very mixed time for many people. Especially in the current condition in the world, under the Corona cloud, it is vastly different to how we have ever experienced the Christmas holidays. If you live near elderly people, it would be kind to keep an eye on them as loneliness is a difficult situation for the old. With all the technology nowadays, there are so many ways to stay in touch, but for some people these technology advances are just not possible for them, either as they are too expensive or people are finding them to difficult to learn about. Isolation and loneliness can be a heavy burden for some. People are social beings; they thrive on being with others. Make December a time to be kind to somebody.

Currently, I am still seeing clients face to face at my office in Chinnor, but most of my appointments are now on video link. My bookings system on my website is finally live and you can book appointments through there now with me. As the appointments change week on week, I am trying my best to keep on top of them. If you wanted something other then what is on my website, please contact me through my email as I may be able to offer something else if the dates/times do not suit, I cannot promise but I will try!

As most of you may or may not be aware of, the GP surgery, where I used to do some of my work, have advised I cannot see face to face patients there for the moment, so if you were referred by the GP and I have not been in touch with you, please contact me to see what I can offer you instead.

If you have family, friends or colleagues who are struggling with their mental health now, please feel free to give them my email/number to see how I can help them. Times are tough for a lot of us and if I can help, I will.

In other news, my website also has a shop facility now to which I will add various products which may be of interest to you. If you are looking for something specific, just send me an email with what you are looking for and I will see if I can help you. I am aiming to extend my shop to include some self-care products as well as Ebooks, journals and other products which you may like, so keep on eye on that.

Also, if you missed the opportunity to sign up for my FREE 7 days email series on ‘How to Improve Your Self Esteem’, you can still sign up on this link here. It is FREE and all you need to do is read an email for 7 days on how to improve self esteem and use the tools and information provided to increase this. I am working on some other free, short email series you can sign up for to improve things like anxiety, depression, self-care, self-love, parenting skills, relationships, grief, etc. There are many ideas I have, it’s time that is holding me back, but I will get there. When a new product is out, I will email you and put it on website and Facebook so you don’t miss out. Thanks for your continued support for my small, local business as always!

My Christmas and New Year opening hours:

I will be off enjoying the break from Christmas Eve, Thursday 24th December and will be back to work on Tuesday 29th December. For New Year, I will only be closed for 1st January, New Year’s day. Feel free to leave a message and I will return your call when I am back.

Please keep an eye on my website as well as my Facebook page as I am there supporting you as much as I can. Like my page on:

https://www.facebook.com/adleriancounselling/?ref=bookmarks

Please find below some tips for the December month.

  1. Self-Care: I have mentioned this before in my newsletter, but this is a big one to watch out for. December is usually a busy time for everybody and to ensure you can handle any stresses that come your way, look after yourself by recharging your battery with activities that give you joy. Caring for yourself is not selfish, it is what you need to do to help you manage difficulties.Some examples of activities: Reading a book, having a long, warm bath, sit in the garden/balcony and enjoy nature, going for a short/long walk, dance to your favourite music, watch something on TV that makes you laugh, call a friend/family member, listen to your favourite book/song, write in a journal, sew/knit/crochet/make cards, do something creative like colour in an adult colouring book or make something.
  2. Finances: If finances are tough in December, and this is probably the case for a lot of us, give a lot of thought to Christmas and presents. How can you do things differently this year? Can you make an agreement with other family members to not spend as much or not spend at all this Christmas? Or maybe you can put all names in a hat and each pulls out a name then each person just buys for one other, or maybe agree to only get small gifts or handmade ones? Once the subject is up for discussion, there may be others who are also struggling and wondered how to start this conversation. Don’t hide from your money worries. Look at where you can save money. Maybe bring lunch to work, don’t buy it. Coffee is cheaper to make yourself and take with you in a flask, this way you can save some money on buying coffees in the day. Check out your food cupboards and clear some items which have been stacking up in there, before things go out of date. (this can save on shopping)
  3. Recognise someone who inspires you: Take two minutes to recognise someone who has made an impact on you this year. We can be inspired by our friends, family co workers or even a stranger. How often do you tell them they have inspired you? The simple gesture of letting somebody know they have inspired you can mean the world to them. So, why wait, let somebody know this week that they have inspired you! Who has been a shining example of heart, perseverance, or hard work? Who has made a difference in your life but probably has no idea that they have helped you!? Challenge yourself this week, to let them know!
  4. Don’t Strive For “Perfection”! Nobody is perfect. And nothing can BE perfect, so do not expect that! Do what you can and be happy knowing that you did all you could to make it a wonderful holiday. Trying to create a “picture perfect” holiday gathering can really “sock it to you” in the stress department. Worrying about what you CANNOT do could lead to very problematic health issues. And you DON’T want that! The worst part of this is that it can all be avoided by thinking realistically about what CAN be done and not what you feel NEEDS to be accomplished. There is a significant difference between those two. Make a promise to yourself that you will only do what you can without placing too much pressure on yourself to get it all done. A good thing to keep in mind is that YOU HAVE NO CONTROL OVER ANYONE OTHER THAN YOURSELF. They will do what they do and that is the end of it! If you believe in your heart that you can in essence “teach an old dog new tricks”, that is, to try and get a person that is set in their “ways” to behave differently for even 15 minutes, you are headed for heartache. Try not to let the actions of others within your circle of family or friends discourage you from having a great holiday season. People will be who they are, and you should learn to let go of any personal expectations of how YOU want the holiday gatherings to be. It will not do anything but add to your own stress levels.

 

Some inspiration this month: ‘To be yourself, in a world that is constantly trying to make you something else, is the greatest accomplishment’ – Ralph Waldo Emerson  

Keep safe everybody and have a wonderful Christmas and New Year. I look forward to catching up with many of you in 2021.